Everything is terminal

December 28, 2008

I think this is an occupational hazard of hospice nursing.

Everything is terminal.

Add previously existing issues with depression/anxiety to a job that squarely faces the big ‘D’ every damned day, and it’s easy to see how I might arrive at my terminal state.

But how to fix it?

Years ago I slept as a means of escape.  And when I say I slept, I mean I slept.  Sometimes 12-15 hours a day.

The last few days I have that need to sleep.  I can’t look you in the eye.  I can’t really hear what you’re saying.  All I know is I want to be where it’s warm and safe and I don’t have to think.

I’ve been stumbling home after work, peeling off my clothes, and ducking into immediate, and deep, sleep.  I did it again this evening, sure that I was sick.  I woke up several hours later,  confusing incandescent light with sunlight, utterly convinced I’d missed a day, or maybe a week.

“What day is it?” I asked my boyfriend.

Quietly, so as not to upset him, I silently bumbled through a mini-mental status exam in my head.  Orientation?  Check.

I am being visited by my old friends, Mr. Fear and Dr. Dread.  My terminal condition is right around the corner.  I can feel it.

I want to find a cancer sniffing dog and let him go at it.  Find it.  Find what’s killing me.  I know it’s there.

I really hate living like this.  I live on the edge of despair most of the time.  It would be so easy to slip off the edge, and it takes all my energy to stay on solid ground and be “normal”.  I get so tired.

On a brighter note, I finished all the Xmas knitting.  All items were received reasonably well, so I am pleased.

I stopped at Yarn Boutique on the way to the hospital Friday, and picked up some rich purple Manos to make myself a feather and fan neck warmer.  I was craving something soft and comforting.

But knitting is not the same.  It’s hard to concentrate.

For someone who says she sleeps too much, what do you suppose I’m still doing up, at 2:07 AM?


Hello, fellow prisoners

October 9, 2008

He’s really done gone and lost it now.

I respect his military experience, and have great empathy for the effects his years of captivity have no doubt had on his life.  But I can’t respect the politician.  Nope.  And now it looks like the strain of it all is really wearing him down.

Lots of knitting is being done.  I remain sans camera battery, however.  I need to buy one before Rhinebeck.  I’ll get pictures up here before long, I promise.

Rhinebeck!!!!  Just over a week, and I’ll be there.  It’s that thought that gets me through the week.  Yeah.  I’m on call again.

Blech.


Feel it move?

September 14, 2008

The universe.  The world.  Whatever existence we’re smack in the middle of.  It’s shifting.

Feel it?

It starts with the change of seasons.  One day it’s hot and muggy.  The tomato plants out back lilt under the oppressive heat.  Their fruit cracks open with over-ripeness.  Lightening streaks through the horizon after dark.  Bats (no lie here, folks, eight of the little devils came to visit us this season) lose their way and flap their way through my house, careening into walls and windows – everywhere but the open door.

The next day the wind blusters through the parking lot.  I drive to work and am momentarily confused at the sight of slight tints of orange in the trees.  The light – it’s different. Slanted.  Cold.  The moon is low and bright.  The lady next door puts a scarecrow out front and frames her door with orange lights.

Every day I go to work.  One day’s the same as the next.  I upload my patients’ charts, and catch up on troubles from the night before.  I finish yesterday’s notes, return phone calls.  I round on my patients, and in between times, meet with grieving families.  I speak with the dying, ask them about their pain and if they are afraid, and lay what I hope is a healing hand on their shoulder.  (Healing.  No, I don’t heal them back from death.  I hope to help them heal from this life, so they pass easier into the next.)

The last two weeks, though.  I can’t connect anymore.  It’s like I hear myself talk, but I might as well be selling vacuums or lipstick.  I’m not on the same level as my patients, or their families.  I recognize the signs.  I’m deep into self-preservation mode.  Feel the shift.

Tempers flare.  Gas prices rise.  For Sale signs clutter an old neighborhood.

The Democrats host a fantastic convention.  I feel hope for the first time in (literally) years.  Someone is speaking my language.  Someone has been listening!  There is kindness and compassion in the world.

The hurricane comes, and then the Republicans get their turn.  I watch in casual disregard; nothing interesting here.  Until.

The trump card is pulled.

And welcome to the world, Sarah Palin.  Woah, folks.  Better hold on tight.  We’re in for a ride now!

Who, besides, me, is old enough to remember the old Herbal Essences commercial from the ’70’s?  You know the one.  Pretty woman in a suit struts towards the camera, liberated by shampoo.  She shakes out her hair from a bun and yanks off her librarian glasses.  That’s the first time I saw Sarah Palin.

Yep.  It’s her.  The shampoo lady is at the podium.

All I can say is I’m afraid.  I’m very afraid.  The term “political refugee” is starting to sound normal, like a term I might someday have to use for myself.  The world is spinning out of control.

In what parallel universe does a grown man with (self-reported) integrity choose someone like Sarah Palin for a vice-Presidential running mate?  How will this person help me?  What has she said in the days since the announcement have offered me any hope?

Here we are.  Days later, and still we’re shifting.  Sarah’s face is trumpeted all over the popular media.

Oh, how she scares me.

Sarah Palin advocates a pro-life agenda. She has the right to choose what she believes in.

However, she does not have the right to smash her beliefs down my throat, or my daughter’s. Sarah Palin does not have the right to put my life at risk, and she most certainly does not have the right to put my sweet daughter’s life at risk, either.

What the pro-life folks forget is this. Women have always chosen. They chose well before Roe vs. Wade was decided, and they will continue to choose if it is overturned.

The difference is, women will have to become criminals to choose. They’ll have to put their own lives at serious risk to choose. (Is anyone out there old enough to remember an aunt, or maybe a friend, who became seriously ill, or even died, after an illegal abortion?)

This is what Sarah Palin and others are advocating for. They won’t be saving lives. They’ll be destroying even more of them.

Listen. I don’t like abortion, either. I can’t imagine anyone does. I worked for quite some time at Planned Parenthood, and never, ever, spent a night in the surgical clinic without grieving for the babies who’d never get to live.

But the alternative is worse. I made my peace with abortion a long time ago. People like Sarah Palin, and the folks who are pulling her strings, frighten me very much.

I can’t even begin to speak about the alleged censorship (pretty much a done deal, according to the New York Times), or the alleged abuses of power in Alaska (ditto to the Times).

How can fellow humans, fellow Americans, knowingly place their trust in this woman?  And her running mate (who, by the way, I had an iota of respect for, before this), since he clearly chose her for reasons that have nothing to do with “country first.”

Hold my hair while I vomit, would you?

Thanks.

Where’s my candidate in all this?  I understand that New York State is already as blue as blue can be, and Barack has no reason to spend a gazillion dollars campaigning up here.  But it would be nice to hear from him.  See him.  Get some reassurance that he’s not giving up on us.  We need him.

Someone has to help get the world on an even keel.  Someone has to reign in this madness.  He told me he would try.

I like to think the Democrats (all of them, even my friends, the Clintons) are composed and nonplussed, wherever they are.  They are waiting for the Republicans to finish slapping each other on the back, and waiting for Sarah to hang herself with her own rope.  Then they’ll be back, in full force.

To give me hope.

I’m headed to the Finger Lakes Fiber Festival this weekend.  Look for me.  I’ll be wearing this button.

(You can get yours, here.)


Planned Obsolescence

July 8, 2008

The receipt says 8/18/07.  The warranty says the battery is not covered.

Isn’t that convenient…

Which just means I have no way of adding my usual high quality photographs to the blog.  I’m fairly certain the difference will be negligible.  But that doesn’t mean I’m not pissed off.  What the hell?  They should make it clear at the outset that the actual cost of the camera will be retail plus the additional yearly cost of a replacement battery.  I know.  $29.00 is not likely to break my bank. It’s just the point of it that bothers me.

Pictures will be from my Mac, then. 

Noro Silk Garden Clap continues.  I know.  It’s boring me, too.

My pond scarf is morphing into some kind of hippy bag.  This was after I was planning a trip to the lake to find a piece of driftwood to make it into a wallhanging.  Now I’m thinking it’s just a mess and I should toss it in the closet.

I got some Apple Pie sock yarn (Apple Laine) from Spirit Works yesterday.  After I cleaned and sorted and exhausted myself with housework, a little treat at the yarn store seemed like a good idea.  You can’t see the colors, but they’re bluish-purples and golds.  

It’s HOT here.  I’m thinking that either an afternoon in an air conditioned coffee shop with my knitting, or a trip to the museum, are in order.  Another idea is a trek out to the Apple store to get a laptop sleeve for my Macbook.  Or I could stay home in the a/c and knit one.  

God, my life is boring.  I really need my camera back to ‘pretty’ things up and make me believe (and you) that I am not really so boring, after all.


I’m still here

May 4, 2008

Sort of.

Traditionally, for reasons unbeknown to me, May is a damned shitty month.  Starting sometime in mid-April, and culminating into a full-fledged funk by my birthday in May…this is my yearly pilgrimage to the dark side.

My mind.  Don’t go in there alone.

I am working, but not enjoying it in the least.  I feel myself going “terminal”, in spite of my reasonably good health status.  Like I’m waiting for the guillotine to drop.  The diagnosis to come.  The bus to hit me.  I mean, why not?  Everyday I watch people die.  Men and woman younger than I are now dead.  People who scaled ice capped mountains in Greenland a few months ago are dead, and you can bet your ass they didn’t expect that outcome when they were savoring the view up there with the musk ox.  Lesson learned.  Why plan for a future when there may not be one?

See.  I told you I am in a bad way.

If history repeats itself as expected, I can expect to feel much better towards the end of the month.  In the meantime I am trying very hard to ride the wave without going under.

There is knitting being done, and other things, but the upcoming Mother’s Day holiday prevents me from posting photographs.

That’s another thing.  Mother’s Day.

Oh, god.

All my ghosts come out in May.


My manias and tics, listed for you

April 13, 2008

I need to stay calm. I need to stay calm. I NEED TO STAY CALM.

But I got tagged!

Julie at My 45th Year tagged me to list, and I quote, “to tell 6 things about your life which look like manias or tics, and then pass it to 6 other persons”.

Translation (I think). List six things that drive me crazy, to the point that others may wonder about my sanity. Then ask six others to tell me what makes them crazy, too.

So, in no particular order, here are my manias and tics.

  1. This one I’ll steal from Julie. Hummers. Hummers are environmentally, ethically, and fiscally irresponsible. Environmentally. Gas. Emissions. So obvious. Ethically. Yes. Let’s glorify a war vehicle, and by all means, let’s glorify our dependence on foreign oil and the very people we’re supposed to be at “war” with. And don’t get me started on the hot pink Barbie Hummers out there. Fiscally. See Ethically.
  2. George Bush. If you want to watch me turn into a whirling dervish of frustration and demoralized anger, ask me about W. I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again. We are the laughing stock of the world. Because last time we actually elected that damned fool. At least the first time we had an excuse.
  3. The modern culture of work, which seems to include an awful lot of martyrdom. Yes. I’m a hospice nurse. That makes me a caregiver, and a nurturer. That does not make me, however, selfless. Expect me to deal with death and dying for 8-10 hours a day? Then give me my weekends off. And if you want me to work weekends, then give me a different two days off, because it’s not normal to talk about funerals, cremation, autopsies, heaven or the lack thereof, organ donation, morphine vs. dilaudid, bone pain, nerve pain, if your mother’s agitation is caused by medications or her brain mets, and whether angels are in the room or not, for 12 days straight, without a break. (Can you tell I am facing another week on call? Take a breath, Ann.)
  4. People that hurt animals. Enough said.
  5. Unpleasant (insert any position here). Little in life frosts my socks more than some bored, gum snapping, high schooler with an attitude checking me out at CVS. Or anywhere. (Nothing against CVS. It’s just an example.) But folks, listen. What if we all smacked our gum in boredom, and didn’t give a shit if we did a good job, or not? What if I, as your nurse, didn’t give a shit? You’d have a fit, wouldn’t you. So please. I’ve had a hard day. How hard would it be to smile, take my money without prompting, and thank me for my business? Trust me. Your boss will appreciate it. And so will I.
  6. Iceberg lettuce. It’s a nutritional wasteland. Ask my kids. They know. (Because I’ve drilled it into their heads from birth.)

There you have it. Tag you’re it!

My Schaefer cotton Clapotis is coming along.

I know. Boring.

I took that beaded bracelet class out at Let’s Bead last Monday night, and this is what I came home with. (It needs to be finished.) I’m kind of impressed with myself, if I do say so myself.

It’s called a Double Spine bracelet, and it’s made with wee, tiny, delica beads and somewhat larger seed beads, and a lot of patience.

And finally, a new project, taken on very spur of the moment. As many know, Knit n’ Purl is having a good sale, in preparation for moving or closing up for good, depending on which she decides on for sure. I got inspired by this, and had a vision of river rocks and moss and stones and sticks…

It’s going to be a scarf, but a short one. I think I want to accent it with glass and/or stone beads, or maybe wood or shells. Then wear it like jewelry.

I actually got myself over to the Flower City Knitters Ravelry knitting group this morning. And had a blast. I’ll definitely go back.

If you don’t hear from me, don’t despair. I’m just doing the hospice thing. I’ll be back. Don’t worry.


Misery loves company

March 29, 2008

I’m the misery.

You’re the company.

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I’m particularly fond of the dark circles. Let it be known that I feel like C*R*A*P.

It was another couch day.

The only good thing is that at times my brain was not completely dead. It put “two and two together”, so to speak, in regards to the battle of the stash vs. what the hell do I do now.

For, oh…maybe 3 years?…I’ve had some Schaefer Laurel in Frida Kahlo, 100% cotton, sitting in my stash. (I took a bus tour with a LYS to the Schaefer farm near here, and bought it then. That’s a great little field trip; go if you get the chance. She actually dyes the yarn in her kitchen. Or at least she did then. And dries it in the barn.) Now it’s 1/8 of the way into becoming a summer weight Clap.

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I finished the i-cord for the Noro Booga Bag, but have yet to felt it. The energy for such activities was sorely lacking today.

The boyfriend, dear man that he is, brought over enough cold and flu medicine to start a clinic with, and a dish of macaroni and cheese from a Caribbean restaurant he likes. (I know. I know. Mac and cheese on the islands?) It’s one of my favorite comfort foods, though, and I ate every bit of it. (So maybe I’m not dying, after all.)

Anyway, he stayed long enough to see a movie on HBO in it’s entirety, during which time I fell asleep. Yep. I’m a hot date.

I made a crapload of stitch markers yesterday.

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(Resume whine here)

(Sort of) middle aged and right now I want someone to tuck me in and hand spoon me my cough medicine. Turning on the humidifier and throwing some Vick’s around for effect would be nice, too.

Barring that, I want my fluffy gray nursemaid to help me to bed. But he’s so busy racing from window to window, keeping an eye on heaven knows what, that I can’t catch him still enough to catch a good picture, let alone coerce him to snuggle with me in bed.

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Whine, whine, whine.

I don’t do illness well at all.


Vacation vs. Sick

March 26, 2008

It would appear that –

  • I picked up a nice case of airplane crud.
  • Work/study efforts of last week have not gone unnoticed by the immune system.
  • It’s just my turn to get sick.

I am supposed to be on vacation. Vacation means doing fun stuff. Correct me if I’m wrong here.

  • Monday I took my certification exam and went to the office to turn in consents and care plans.
  • Tuesday was fun. I spent it with my daughter, buying her birthday presents. (She picked out new, really cool, glasses, and a spring coat that makes her look really incredible.
  • Today I had a doctor’s appointment. At which time I bought myself –
  • Twice daily BG’s.
  • An A1C result higher than before.
  • The pleasure of gulping down yet more Metformin.
  • An appointment for a Holter monitor.

Yessirree, Bob. I am getting old. Couple that with a low grade fever and a cough, and there you have it.

Vacation gone sick.

Things to be happy reasonably grateful for –

  • I bought jeans yesterday a size smaller than usual. If one were to believe this picture, you might think I was really quite trim.

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We know this is a trick of the eye.

  • I got to waste scads of valuable time taking pictures of crap so that I could make an artsy-fartsy sort of banner for my blog.

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  • I am slamming some Noro Kureyon into a Booga Bag, since the cabled bag I tried to start was a disaster.

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Things to be sort of pissed off about –

  • ANTS. Enough said. I bought traps. I know I am full of crap, okay? I know it. Sentient creatures want to live as much as I do. I know. However, these scuzzy little black ants need to find another home. Pronto. Or risk destruction via the spray bottle of eco-friendly lavender cleaner.

The little engine that could

February 21, 2008

Apparently they still publish this book.

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I think I can…I think I can…I think I can...” It’s a cute book, even if Wikipedia assumes a somewhat judgemental tone when it calls it a “moralistic children’s story”. I often think about this book for brief seconds when I’m involved in something really strenuous. So, despite what the good folks at Wikipedia say, it must have had one hell of an impact on me, to have stuck with me all these years.

I think I can” goes through my head during these weeks of on call. I have to practice living in the moment, and work very hard at not ruminating too much about what might happen. Instead I focus on what truly is happening. On a week seemingly without limits or boundaries, this helps keep me sane.

I picked up the spring issue of Interweave Knits. I’m incredibly unimpressed. As in…I brought it to lunch with me today, savoring the thought of 30 minutes of peace and a new IK. 15 minutes later, I was not only finishing the last of my hummus and wheat pita, but was through looking at the magazine, too. What a yawn. I don’t think there’s anything I want to make. Maybe I could be talked into the Holly cardigan…? Everything seems to have been designed for 110 pound, 19 year old women. I would look beyond ridiculous in the frilly little peplums and floaty sleeves that end at the fattest part of my arm. And what’s with everything being the color of cooked salmon, I wonder?

I know the Knitting Daily people are doing a series on making the patterns adaptable for everyone — young, old, thin, voluptuous — but I don’t wanna adapt! (insert whine here) I wanted to see a project that bowled me over and got me excited to pick out the yarn — you know…something that would lift the doldrums of being under the 24/7 ball and chain of being the on call hospice evaluator. I wanted spring! I wanted the promise of new yarn and slick new needles! What I don’t want to read up on is how I can work double time to make your pretty patterns for gorgeous young things more suitable for my ugly old fat self.

Wow.

Even I didn’t know I felt so strongly about that.

I am tired. I need to get some sleep, and get ready for another day of talking about DNR and pain management and funeral homes, and then there’s the weekend, and then there’s next week…

Ruminating. Stop ruminating!

See you on the flip side.


and speaking of bugs

February 19, 2008

So I’m doing my usual blog cruising tonight, hitting up the odd and gross on my way to the sane and knitterly.

I find these pictures of “the clock spider”.

Clockspider

Urban legend or truth?

I don’t suppose anyone knows. Click on the this for more pictures, if you like. And enjoy the comments. Most especially this one, which has me howling in perverted laughter.

Apr 6th, 2007 (11:09 AM)

anyone living in the tropics knows the joy of big fat spiders. And how goddamn fast they are.
when i lived in hawaii we had cane spiders. they sometimes wander into
the house, and just like the huge flying roaches there, it’s not that
your house is dirty, it’s just their world…
well these big fuckers LOVE to come out when you’re at your most vulnerable.

like when you’re on the shitter.

you’ll be sitting there minding your own business when you see a slight
movement out of the corner of your eye. look over and one of these huge
hairy things has stepped out from behind the sink.

he stops cuz of you, your butthole slams shut cuz of him and it’s like
a mexican standoff. you’re scared any move towards your pants will
cause him to charge. he’s scared becuase you’re way bigger than he is.
so you spend 5 minutes in scary limbo before you say fuck it and run
like a penguin with your pants around your ankles.

I don’t remember wiping. And I don’t care.
And that is all. No knitting news. I finished the 10th straight repeat on the Clapotis tonight, so there’s progress, but nothing to write home about.

I succumbed to the lure of the carbohydrate tonight, because Weight Watchers, while effective in teaching me the proper way to eat, leaves me starved most of the time. And I can only eat so many raw veggies before my stomach starts to hurt, you know? So tomorrow is another day, because I refuse to beat myself senseless over this.

Compassion and kindness in all things. Even towards myself.

Not sure what I’d do if I was confronted with the legendary clock spider, though…